Whose career comes first when a family moves? Does the one who earns the living have the ultimate power of decision? Forty percent of the population relocates once every four years. Whither Thou Goest is the inside story of the effects of moving on one family -- not just the packing, leave-taking, readjustment and search for new friends, but most important, the balance of power within marriage. When her lawyer husband was offered the job of a lifetime in Rochester, New York, Eleanor Dienstag, career mother and passionate Manhattanite, left her native turf to follow her spouse. Caught between traditional values and burgeoning feminism, she made the move from a Riverside Drive apartment and the joys of the city to a house in a quiet upstate town. The move broke their marriage open, revealing vital issues about sex roles, responsibility, independence and ambition. Then another trauma shook their marriage: the decline of the Stirling Homex Company -- one of the most spectacular business disasters of recent times -- the company for whom the Dienstags left New York. What happens to a wife who moves for the sake of her husband's career when that career explodes? How do you help an ambitious man admit a mistake? How do you strive for an equitable marriage when your husband's job is using all his energy? Whither Thou Goest is the honest story of one woman -- who could be any woman -- facing up to the moral demands of business, marriage and self, and confronting the seductive power of the American dream of upward mobility -- a dream that diminishes both men and women.

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