Trans women -- who were assigned male at birth and later transitioned into a female gender -- are increasingly in the media because of celebrities and controversial legislation. Now cis men -- who identify with a masculine gender they were assigned at birth -- are called upon to share their experiences as lovers of trans women. Using theory and personal anecdotes, the author questions the codes that cis men and trans women use to interpret their own and others' gendered and sexed bodies, and seeks to free romantic and sexual experience from prejudice and stigma.