Tara McCarthy has done her share of kissing. The product of an Irish-American household and Catholic girls' school, she is not prudish about sex. She has had many dates and many suitors and has done pretty much everything there is to do - except for the one act she values most. Years have gone by, boyfriends have come and gone, and virgin friends have dropped like flies, but time and again Tara has decided to save herself for someone she truly loves, content to this day. To wait for her prince no matter how long it takes. Her litany of courtships in years to come would follow the same pattern: relationships begin with idealism and hope and end with the sobering realization that the man she is with just isn't "the one." Because for Tara, love and sex are intertwined and she will not have one without the other; this belief has been unwavering throughout her journey of self-awareness. From high school to Harvard, from New York to Dublin and. Back, her intercourse-free amorous adventures would leave her sometimes heartbroken, often wiser, and always more determined than ever to wait for the right man. Now Tara candidly recounts her experiences on the battleground of the sexes. She recalls with sardonic wit the men she loved and the creeps she didn't, and why none of them became her "first." Been There, Haven't Done That is the honest account of one woman's insightful coming-of-age. Shattering traditional. Concepts of virginity, it offers an insightful look into the modern dating scene and tells what it means to be an independent woman in the nineties.